Friday, February 15, 2008

Headed to Detroit in the Morning...

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Moving up here came with the price of leaving my family. My folks, not being in the best of health, leave me feeling guilty that I can't be there for them and my sister, shouldering the main responsibilty ... this all weighs daily on my mind. I couldn't begin to write about the "dynamics" of my family... that's a book started long ago. But I can condense it by reiterating that our lives have been full of choices and not always have those choices sat well with others. No one can live anothers life... but I've lived mine, and not always with the flow. Its boiling down to the facts of "It is what it is" and I see that I am entering one of those inevitable times of my adult life.. the care and planning of my elder parents. I won't get into here but this is the crux of my personal life.

I'll be headed out in the wee hours on what I'm sure will be an emotional visit and hopefully some things can get worked out in the short time I'm there. (I got my job this week and had to call and tell them of this change in plan. What a way to start.)

The round trip is 1000 miles and the weather can be extremely remarkable here in the Great Lakes state. You can start off in good weather and find a blizzard a few miles down the road. It's 250 miles ( the halfway point ) to the Mackinac Bridge. I don't do this bridge well and have had panic attacks and fear tears crossing it, my butt seems to suck into itself until I'm safely across the 5 mile span. I tend to do better when I am driving vs. being a passenger. Something about control, I'm sure.
Click this link for the Live Cam . The view can change drastically in moments. The total trip time "home" ranges 8-10 hours one way depending on conditions & I haven't been to the metropolis since September so I really don't relish the culture or traffic. Off to pack....

Hopefully (and with Godspeed) I'll see you next week......



8 comments:

Threadspider said...

Good luck with that journey and I hope the visit isn't quite as hard as you are expecting. Take care now and we'll see you soon. Keep smiling.

paulahewitt said...

goodluck. My mum solved this dilemma with me, by moving up here when we had kids....but now she has the problem with my grandmother and aunt.... That bridge looks sickeningly scary (i looked in the atlas - does this bridge span the area between lake Michigan and Lake Huron?? I hope you get everything ( something?) sorted with your family. and congrats on the new job.

Debi said...

Best of luck to you. I have some of the same issues (i.e. elderly parents) and was ultimately forced to move from WI to TX. I also have panic attacks on bridges.

Quilting Mama said...

I haven't seen that bridge since I was a child, I don't know if I was afraid of it then, but I would be seriously nauseous while crossing it now!

Have a wonderful trip. I know about family dynamics, my family is a mess!

Idaho Quilter said...

Have a safe trip!!! don't grip the steering wheel to hard.

Toni said...

Congrats on the new job...I hope everything is fine in Detroit...

The bridge doesnt bother me...I enjoy it..I hope your trip over it both ways went/goes well....Toni

Susan said...

I hope all is well for you on the trip, and that the first crossing of the bridge was not too bad. This is a hard thing in life. We've been through it, and next we'll be the parents. Scary thought!

Candi said...

You're headed into more than one journey and my heart and prayers go with you. I know the difficulties in dealing with elderly parent issues and it's very hard.
Lots of HUGZ:)
Candi